If you’re reading this, you probably got this beautiful oracle deck (and maybe even a few of them or maybe like 100… AND totally understandable!). The box felt magical, the cards were stunning, and you were all excited to dive in… but something just didn’t click, and you feel disconnected for some reason.

Now you’re wondering: Did I buy the wrong one? Is it me? Am I just not intuitive enough?

First, take a deep breath. Nope, you’re not broken. Your deck isn’t broken. And no, your guides haven’t ghosted you.

Let’s talk about what might actually be happening. I have 8 reasons why you may be feeling this way.

1. It’s Not the Deck. It’s Your Expectations.

For point number 1, this miiight sting a little, but if you’re coming to your deck expecting it to solve your life, you’re probably setting yourself up for disconnection. Oracle cards aren’t magic answers on demand, they’re more like mirrors, tools, support. They help you listen to yourself more clearly, not override your intuition.

I used to think if I just asked the right question, the deck would spill the tea on everything—timelines, people’s motives, the best time to quit my job or cut my hair. But nope. What did I get instead? A card that said “Rest” or “Trust.” And I was like, “Excuse me, what? That’s not helpful.” But it actually was… I just didn’t want to hear it.

2. You’re Probably Asking the Wrong Questions.

If you’re pulling cards and asking things like, “When will I find love?” or “What day will I get that promotion?” you’re definitely going to feel disconnected. Why? Because those questions are tied to control, not curiosity and openness.

Try this instead:

“What do I need to know about love right now?”

“What’s blocking me from receiving what I want?”

“How can I support myself while I wait?”

It shifts the energy. You stop demanding answers and start opening up to insight. That tiny tweak can change everything.

That reminds me of our most recent creations, Trust: an Oracle. It's created with the thought and intention that isn’t about giving you the answers, but about giving you space to feel what’s true for you.

And it’s something we kept close to heart while writing its guidebook—the cards don’t lead with direction. They offer you an opening. A pause. A choice.

3. Intuition Doesn’t Yell

Here’s something people don’t talk about enough: intuition is quiet.

Like, frustratingly quiet sometimes.

You might pull a card and feel… nothing. No fireworks. No voice from the heavens. Just… “huh.”

And that’s okay. Not every message is gonna hit like a lightning bolt. Sometimes, the meaning of a card doesn’t make sense until hours later. Or days. Or it never fully lands, and you move on. That’s not failure, that’s being human.

Just imagine pulling a card that said “Stir.” And you happen to be in the middle of a silent treatment standoff with your friend and maybe, you really didn’t want to make waves. Getting that “Stir” card is making you want to throw it across the room out of frustration because you don’t understand what it’s telling you.

So you may have given it some thought, and that one word sat with you. It poked at you. Eventually, you realized what it was asking: stir the pot, have the hard conversation, stop hiding.

Not fun. But necessary.

4. Don’t Just Read, Apply.

It’s easy to pull cards, read the little booklet, nod like “yes, yes, this is deep” and then…do nothing with it.

Oracle cards are about integration and not collecting poetic phrases. 

If you’re pulling a card every day but never sitting with the message, your intuition has nowhere to go. It’s like trying to journal your feelings but never reading what you wrote.

Try this: pull one card at the beginning of the week. Then come back to it. Revisit it each day. Ask yourself: “Did I actually live this out?” Let the card guide your actions, not just your thoughts.

5. The Guidebook Isn’t the Boss

That little book that comes with the deck? It’s helpful, yes, but it’s not law. One of the biggest mistakes people make is reading only what the guidebook says and ignoring their own inner voice.

If a card makes you feel something: a gut pull, a memory, or an image in your mind, that’s probably the real message.

The guidebook is just one lens. Your intuition is another.

I’ve had cards completely change meaning depending on what I was going through. That’s not inconsistency, that’s depth.

6. Too Much Hustle, Not Enough Heart

Another reason you might not be connecting? You’re treating your cards like a to-do list.
“What do I need to do?” “What should I fix?” “How can I change this?”

Sometimes, the message isn’t about doing anything. Sometimes it’s about being. Feeling. Noticing. Slowing down.

Spiritual growth isn’t always about action. It’s also about sitting in the discomfort, letting things unfold, and asking: “What’s the lesson here?” Not “How do I fix this immediately so I can feel better?”

7. You Might Be Using the Wrong Deck (for Now)

Okay, yes. Sometimes…it is the deck. But not because it’s bad or flawed. It might just not be for you. At least, not right now.

I’ve had decks that sat on my shelf for months—ones I couldn’t connect with no matter how hard I tried. Then one day, I picked one up again and it clicked. Or sometimes…it never did. And I passed it along to someone else who loved it.

You don’t have to force it. You’re allowed to let go of decks that don’t spark something in you.

8. Stop Thinking You’re Not “Spiritual Enough”

Last but not least, if you’re thinking, “Maybe I just don’t have the gift,” I need you to stop right there.

You do have the gift. Everyone has intuition. Everyone. You don’t need to see auras or predict the next lunar eclipse to use oracle cards. What you do need is to trust yourself, even a little.

And yes, that might feel awkward or fake at first. That’s normal. Remember that you build connection by showing up, not by waiting for a sign that you’re ready.

If you’re not connecting with your deck, consider this: it might not be the deck.
It might be your expectations, your questions, your pace, your overthinking. Or it might be that your inner voice is speaking so softly, and you’ve just been too busy to hear it.

So slow down. Breathe. Ask a softer question. Pull one card. Sit with it. See what comes.
You might be surprised at what shows up when you stop trying so hard.

And if this blog spoke to you, if you’re nodding your head thinking, “Wow, I really needed to hear this,” then you’ll probably love what we’re about to release.

Trust: an Oracle

We're launching our newest oracle deck! it is designed not to “guide” you, but to help you stay with yourself and trust what is unfolding right now. 

We’re launching it soon on Kickstarter, and if you’re even a little curious, you can sign up to be the first to know when we go live.

 Click here to join the waitlist or follow the launch.

Your inner voice is still there. Let’s get quiet enough to hear it.